Increasing Intimacy In Your Marriage
2015-04-22 16:42:01 CPCC Blogging Team
How To Build A Better Relationship With Your Spouse
Marriage is a lifelong partnership, but as the years go by you might find yourself feeling more and more distant. As you get comfortable with your spouse, it is easy to start to feel like you do not need to put in as much effort anymore. This can lead to you and your spouse growing apart. To rebuild the emotional intimacy in your marriage, consider these suggestions.
- Look Inward: Oftentimes, when we feel we are not close with our spouse we assume the other person is to blame. Before you start pointing fingers, though, point yourself towards a mirror. What is making you withdraw? How have you become less open and communicative? Work on changing yourself before you challenge your partner.
- Be Safe: Decide that you will be a person with whom your spouse can feel safe. When he or she shares opinions with which you disagree, do not immediately push back. Instead, welcome a healthy dialogue. Avoid being criticizing. Make sure your spouse feels welcome each time her or she talks with you.
- Spend Time Together: It is not rocket science- the more time you spend with a person the better you get to know them. You may think that after all of these years you know your spouse as best you can, but when was the last time you and your spouse got a babysitter, powered down your phones, and just talked? Setting aside a space to enjoy each other’s company can help you rediscover closeness in your marriage.
Fortunately, you can get professional help to guide you on the path to increased intimacy. Contact the Community Presbyterian Counseling Center in San Ramon, California for marriage counseling that will help you discover your healthiest, happiest, closest marriage.
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