“Sometimes, when my mom goes to bed,” the thirteen-year-old boy whispered as he leaned in to me, “I watch porn.” He giggled with titillation. When in college, I mentored this thirteen-year-old boy. When he told me about his porn use, I felt conflicted. On one hand, I...
“Why do I keep doing what I know is destructive to myself, my spouse, my marriage and my family?” This is a question that many of us ask ourselves way too often! And, yet, regardless of the known consequences we continue to “act out” our compulsive behaviors...
What does today’s culture teach young people about sexuality? What lessons do the Internet and media teach boys about what it means to be a man and girls about what it means to be a woman? In a recently published TEDx talk, Dr. Gail Dines, gives some insights that may shock those who grew...
Sex addiction results in betrayal, pain, and broken trust. It hurts the individual who struggle with the addiction; it hurts their partner; and it hurts their marriage. Many couples wonder if their relationship has been damaged beyond repair. They wonder if it is worth trying to work...
No matter what populations you work with, sex addiction is likely something that impacts your clientele. Your clients may be dealing with it first hand, or they may have spouses, partners, or family members who are. For this reason, it is helpful for all counselors to have some...
We are happy to announce that CPCC has extended the Early Bird Registration until March 15th for our Hooked on Sex event. This event will be for leaders, therapists, and pastors who are wanting to better understand how to help their congregation and clients how to work through sexual...
Should I Watch "50 Shades of Grey"? A Psychiatrist's Advice For Young People With the movie now out and available, many people are posting their thoughts and concerns regarding the messages implied in 50 Shades Of Grey. One article I recently encountered addresses...
When you discover that your partner is a sex addict, it is normal to be flooded with questions. Your partner has had a life apart from you, a life of secrets in which he or she has betrayed your relationship. He has been lying to you and now he is being honest (you hope!). You are...
The truth about addictive behavior is that cognitive, rational thinking is not engaged and our animal-like amygdala has taken control. If you have spent time in recovery, you've heard the saying that acting out behavior is "crazy." Addicts are not thinking when they are in...
Introduced in the 1980’s, the concept of sexual addiction provides an explanation for otherwise irrational and self-destructive sexual behavior. How can you then detect sexual addiction? Notable sex addiction expert Patrick Carnes once made an analogy that sheds...
