It has been said that all addictions are intimacy disorders. Addicts want intimacy in relationships, but they are driven by and settle for intensity. Many of my clients who identify as sex addicts grew up in households in which they did not receive comfort or connection as a child. As...
We are excited to announce that the Sexual Recovery Program (SRP) at CPCC will now be offering services for female sex and love addicts in the community. Our very own MFT Intern, Lisa Olson, will be using her expertise in addiction to support female sex and love addicts in their journey toward...
She stood there, frozen in time, holding that tiny piece of register tape in her hand, staring. The world melted around her. Her heart was pounding and head felt like it was going to explode. She felt like someone had just sucker-punched her. “Now what?” she thought. Susan...
One thing that can bring instant panic to both parent and teen, is thinking about ‘the talk’. Just thinking about telling your teenager (or hearing your parent awkwardly stumble through telling you) about sex, body parts and functions is scary; heck, even the words &mdash...
In April of this year we hosted Dr. Doug Weiss, notable author & sex addiction therapist in Colorado. He provided excellent training on the basics of sex addiction and recovery treatment for therapists as well as couples who struggle with addiction. Dr. Weiss presented 6 types of sex...
In my previous post, I wrote about the importance of talking to your teen about porn. Here are four tips to help facilitate the talk. 1) Have a continual conversation with your kids about sex. Unfortunately for many youth, their first exposure to pornography signals their...
“Sometimes, when my mom goes to bed,” the thirteen-year-old boy whispered as he leaned in to me, “I watch porn.” He giggled with titillation. When in college, I mentored this thirteen-year-old boy. When he told me about his porn use, I felt conflicted. On one hand, I...
“Why do I keep doing what I know is destructive to myself, my spouse, my marriage and my family?” This is a question that many of us ask ourselves way too often! And, yet, regardless of the known consequences we continue to “act out” our compulsive behaviors...
What does today’s culture teach young people about sexuality? What lessons do the Internet and media teach boys about what it means to be a man and girls about what it means to be a woman? In a recently published TEDx talk, Dr. Gail Dines, gives some insights that may shock those who grew...
Sex addiction results in betrayal, pain, and broken trust. It hurts the individual who struggle with the addiction; it hurts their partner; and it hurts their marriage. Many couples wonder if their relationship has been damaged beyond repair. They wonder if it is worth trying to work...
