You have identified the behavior or internal belief system (about yourself or others) you want to change. You have even done the work to unpack those beliefs and patterns- where they came from, what purpose they were perhaps serving you. Now you find yourself wondering how to take this...
Has your child been acting out lately? Have they been complaining about COVID-19 and not seeing their friends as often? Wouldn’t it be nice if children came with an instruction manual for when they may need a tune up? They may be depressed. Some children express anger and outbursts...
With the holidays ending and the stores swiftly moving towards valentine’s day decorations, door buster sales are hard to ignore. We see the commercials and social media ads. It becomes hard not to make that pit stop to the holiday clearance section of your favorite store. With...
If I only had five minutes to change someone’s life, I would give them this DEARMAN tool. A DEARMAN is a communication tool from dialectical behavior therapy which was designed by Marsha Linehan.1 It is a tool that helps us to connect and request something from...
Many people understand the importance of adults having boundaries with their kids and teens. Usually these boundaries are a general criteria of behaviors and expectations, as well as consequences for when the boundaries are broken. Sometimes these rules are unspoken and other times...
Being the parent of a child will seem like a blessing and a struggle all at the same time. From what I hear from parents and child-development, that’s normal and you’re not alone or “doing it wrong.” If you have a child who is considered in the...
Ever met a child that just won’t take no for an answer? Have you noticed it’s hard to say no to your child before? Were you taught what healthy boundaries look like growing up? If any of this pertains to you, then I want to help set up some tips and tricks for setting boundaries with...
Many people aren’t taught what boundaries are or how to properly set them. Just like any new skill, learning to set boundaries can feel clumsy and awkward at first. As you learn how to set boundaries, you may run into some common myths:1. Setting boundaries is mean. I hear this...
Heading home for the holidays can conjure the warm fuzzies of nostalgia and anxiety of old patterns or family conflict. Whether heading home from college, returning to your childhood home with your own family in tow, or hosting family yourself, spending time with family can often pull...
Most of the following is for work with couples in recovery, but the boundary examples, message, and implementation are applicable for every person who has ever had someone cross their boundaries or had trouble in this area. What are boundaries? Boundaries are like fences between...
