Last week we discussed Gottman’s Four Horsemen the Apocalypse. Hopefully you are beginning to notice which horsemen you tend to use. As you grow in your self-awareness, you can begin to catch yourself and instead choose to communicate differently. Here is what Gottman has found to be the...
Marital researcher John Gottman has spent years identifying the strengths and downfalls of marriages. With over 40 years of research under his belt, he can predict with more than 90% accuracy whether a couple will stay together or get divorced. One of the predicting factors of divorce is the...
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I have recently been reading The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD., a book exploring the ways in which our brains, minds, and bodies both hold, and in turn, can heal trauma. Trauma may feel like a scary therapy buzzword, and it becomes tempting to push it away from...
I was driving to work a couple weeks ago, mindlessly scanning the presets on my radio, whispering a victorious “Oh, yes!” as I stumbled upon a familiar talk show when… I had a moment. One of those, “When did this happen?” moments. You know the kind...
I do not know you as you read this, and maybe it seems impossible to ever let go of hurt or to begin to love a perpetrator. Maybe you’re thinking this is not necessary and you feel more comfortable with the middle ground (you don’t want to feel angry, but you’re not ready...
People tend to use the words Addiction and Dependence interchangeably, most people have their own idea of what it means to be an “addict”, but many do not realize there can be a dependence on a substance that can lead to an addiction. There are some fine lines between these two...
How we perceive God can seem inextricably linked to the way we perceive our earthly mothers and fathers. Whether it’s the dad who left us feeling inadequate and voiceless, or the mom who felt more like the child and less like the adult (rendering our environment unpredictable and...
Do you have someone in your life you have not been able to fully forgive? You are not alone, as I have met many people who wish to forgive but are not sure how or where to start. A lot of people think forgiveness means forgetting, or telling yourself what happened was not impactful. This...
Many people aren’t taught what boundaries are or how to properly set them. Just like any new skill, learning to set boundaries can feel clumsy and awkward at first. As you learn how to set boundaries, you may run into some common myths:1. Setting boundaries is mean. I hear this...
